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How to Protect the Bond Between You and Your Cat

How to Protect the Bond Between You and Your Cat

Cats are funny creatures. One minute they want their space, and the next, they want to cuddle up on your lap. (Or, they completely ignore you until it’s dinner time.) While it may sometimes seem like your cat couldn’t care less about you, they actually form bonds with us and become attached to us[1].

These bonds are mutually beneficial, too. Cat ownership has been found to lower stress[2], decrease the risk of allergies in children[3], and improve your quality of life. Not a bad deal, right?

If you’re curious how to bond with your cat, especially if they’re not overly affectionate to begin with, you’re not alone. You can take steps to help build trust and a relationship with your cat.

Ways to bond with your cat

Grooming. Brush and groom your cat regularly — if they enjoy it. Forcing grooming can damage the bond you share with your cat if they do not enjoy it. If they do like it though, it’s a great way to spend time together.

Pay attention to quality time. Spend time each day petting, snuggling with, and playing with them. But pay attention to your cat’s cues — if they want space, give it to them. Your bond will grow if you respect their cues.

Training. It’s possible to train your cat. Working together to train a skill is a great way to build and strengthen the bond you share. You may even impress your friends, too!

Go for a walk. You can leash train your cat to go on walks or hikes with you. Not all cats will like leash walking, but it can be a fun way to spend quality time with your cat. Just make sure they’re protected with a safe and effective flea and tick preventative prior to exploring the outdoors. Check to see if the product also provides coverage for intestinal parasites, since cats may have increased exposure to them by being outdoors. And, of course, ensure your cat has an ID collar and/or is microchipped.

Flea and tick preventatives. Some flea and tick preventatives for cats require you to wear gloves to apply or to refrain from touching them for a period of time. When choosing a safe and effective flea and tick medication, ask your veterinarian about options that allow for no separation time after application. Who wants to wait that long between cuddling with their cat?

Meal-feeding. Feeding your cat at specific times during the day, as opposed to free-feeding them, can be an easy way to engage, interact, and spend more time with your cat. It also helps them associate you with one of their favorite things — eating.

Once you’ve learned how to bond with your cat, you’ll want to protect that bond you share. There are some common things that can undermine the bond you share with them, but measures can be taken to ensure it remains strong.

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Further ways to protect the bond with your cat

Limit stress in the home. Events that cause you to feel stressed (like moving, the holidays, a new baby, or a new pet) can cause your cat stress, too. Try to keep your cat’s routine as normal as possible and respect their need for attention or space.

Be aware of cat illnesses. If your cat becomes ill or has a painful condition like osteoarthritis or dental disease, they may start to act differently, including shying away from you. If your cat is acting differently than normal, they may be in pain. Helping to manage their pain or illness can help them return to their normal selves, and help you rebuild the bond with your cat.

Keep them healthy. Bring them for their regular wellness check-ups with your veterinarian to help keep them healthy and parasite-free. Take steps to ensure a stress-free trip before you head to the vet.

Watch out for inappropriate behavior. The bond between you and your cat can be strained if your cat is scratching things they shouldn’t or acting aggressively. Providing your cat ample scratching posts, lots of exercise, and respecting their boundaries can help them control their unwanted behavior.

Pay attention if they’re going outside their litter box. If your cat is peeing or pooping outside of their litter box, it can mean a medical problem, stress, or a problem with their litter box set up. Whatever the cause, it can certainly damage your bond with your cat. Be sure to provide them with ample litter boxes (the number of cats you have plus one) and take steps to decrease stress. If those steps don’t work, it’s time to talk with your veterinarian to see if there may be a medical reason.

If you detect a change in your cat’s “normal”, don’t hesitate to seek professional veterinary care. Learn more about understanding your cat’s behavior and health here.

Georgette Wilson, DVM

Georgette Wilson, DVM

Born and raised in New York City, Dr. Georgette Wilson received her BA from the University of Pennsylvania and DVM from Cornell College of Veterinary Medicine in Ithaca, NY. Dr. Wilson completed a one-year small animal internship at the University of Tennessee. She practiced in the greater New York City area for 11 years prior to entering the veterinary pharmaceutical industry. Dr. Wilson is currently the Zoetis Petcare HQ Medical Lead for the parasiticides franchise. In her spare time, Dr. Wilson enjoys travel with her family.

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